In this book, Philippa Perry tells how parents traditionally build relationships with children, what gets in the way of good contact and what can improve it. Using examples from the stories of her patients and based on her own experience of motherhood, the author explains how to: trace the connection between the way you were raised and the way you raise your children; to understand what this or that child's behavior signals; to give advice to your own feelings and the feelings of your child; to realize and change destructive patterns of interaction with the child; to accept the fact that you make mistakes, and then correct them. This is a publication for parents who not only love their children, but also enjoy communicating with them.